Your Marriage is not a problem; the mistakes you make remains the problem until you realize them.

Often, when a marriage is in trouble, people tend to see their Marriage as a mistake rather than seeing the mistakes they are making in their marriage. At this point, they regret marrying their wife or husband, begin to think of a new partner, imagine marrying their ex or fantasizing a marriage without issues. Some even divorce or remarry and later wish they had remained with their first spouse, as they find greater trouble in the new spouse. This is because the first marriage was not a mistake, and the mistake has not been discovered yet. So you can remarry as many times as you like, but still experience problems in marriage, until you discover the mistakes you are making and correct them. So, divorce or separation is not a solution to consider when you are having problems with your marriage. When your car has a flat tyre, you do not abandon it, but change the tyre and move on. When we have a headache, no matter how excruciating, we do not cut off the head but take care of the headache. When a bulb blows out in the room we do not change the room or the house; we replace the bulb and light up the room. When we have challenges at work, we do not refuse to go to work, we go there to solve the problems. So, when marriage has an issue, we don't need to change the spouse instead of change the attitude that is creating the problem. Often, when we see some couples enjoying their marriages, fully enjoying each other's company, we admire and cherish them, even though the opposite is seen in our own marriage. The reason is that some people have worked on their marriage by paying the necessary price, which is why they are enjoying the fruits of their labor. It is said, “ The way you make your bed is the way you will lie on it”. Your marriage is as good or as sweet as you make it. Some couples, because of the negative things they are seeing in their marriage, accuse each other of being responsible. They point accusing fingers at each other for being responsible. Some even say many bad things about their spouse, calling him or her names and thinking that marrying that man or that woman was a mistake. It is not so; your marriage was not a mistake, but you are making the mistake(s): Your habit is the mistake; Your character is the mistake; Your manner, anger, forgiveness, laziness, lack of love, lack of affection, lack of attention, impatience, bitterness, selfishness, ignorance, stinginess, not being considerate, infidelity and lovelessness are the mistakes. Talking about bitterness. Some still dream of a marriage with their ex seeing your spouse as a stumbling block. Wake up to the smell of coffee. Be content with your spouse. That behavior is your mistake. So, get up now and build your marriage. It is not a mistake. Divorce or in separation is never an options not a solution. May God bless all marriages.