Your Marriage is not a problem; the mistakes you make remains the problem until you realize them.

Often, when a marriage is in trouble, people tend to see their Marriage as a mistake rather than seeing the mistakes they are making in their marriage. At this point, they regret marrying their wife or husband, begin to think of a new partner, imagine marrying their ex or fantasizing a marriage without issues. Some even divorce or remarry and later wish they had remained with their first spouse, as they find greater trouble in the new spouse. This is because the first marriage was not a mistake, and the mistake has not been discovered yet. So you can remarry as many times as you like, but still experience problems in marriage, until you discover the mistakes you are making and correct them. So, divorce or separation is not a solution to consider when you are having problems with your marriage. When your car has a flat tyre, you do not abandon it, but change the tyre and move on. When we have a headache, no matter how excruciating, we do not cut off the head but take care of the headache. When a bulb blows out in the room we do not change the room or the house; we replace the bulb and light up the room. When we have challenges at work, we do not refuse to go to work, we go there to solve the problems. So, when marriage has an issue, we don't need to change the spouse instead of change the attitude that is creating the problem. Often, when we see some couples enjoying their marriages, fully enjoying each other's company, we admire and cherish them, even though the opposite is seen in our own marriage. The reason is that some people have worked on their marriage by paying the necessary price, which is why they are enjoying the fruits of their labor. It is said, “ The way you make your bed is the way you will lie on it”. Your marriage is as good or as sweet as you make it. Some couples, because of the negative things they are seeing in their marriage, accuse each other of being responsible. They point accusing fingers at each other for being responsible. Some even say many bad things about their spouse, calling him or her names and thinking that marrying that man or that woman was a mistake. It is not so; your marriage was not a mistake, but you are making the mistake(s): Your habit is the mistake; Your character is the mistake; Your manner, anger, forgiveness, laziness, lack of love, lack of affection, lack of attention, impatience, bitterness, selfishness, ignorance, stinginess, not being considerate, infidelity and lovelessness are the mistakes. Talking about bitterness. Some still dream of a marriage with their ex seeing your spouse as a stumbling block. Wake up to the smell of coffee. Be content with your spouse. That behavior is your mistake. So, get up now and build your marriage. It is not a mistake. Divorce or in separation is never an options not a solution. May God bless all marriages.

 

A NEW GUIDE TO CHOOSING A FRIEND

     If two people don’t agree, they cannot be, walk or work together. It takes hard work backed by the spirit of discernment to choose a true friend out of the many people you come across in life. You will expect the best result if you personally know yourself; yes the friends you have are a true reflection of whom you are. The Bible makes this very clear” show me your friend and I will tell whom you are.” Your best friend is the one you had from childhood though environment and experiences bring change of behavior as time passes. 

    I am a lifestyle copywriter since 2016 focused on self- improvement. I realized many people, have out of ignorance or neglect avoided some of the simple rules that help us select whom to be a friend. They end up choosing the wrong persons reason why the relationship is short- lived, or at one point start living like a cat and a dog or like petrol and fire. I have written this article to help point out some ideas to consider before choosing a friend, problems encountered as a result of choosing the wrong person as well as solutions if you accidentally or stubbornly chose a wrong friend. I have also given some solutions from real life experiences to victims in such unfortunate relations in the name of friendship. My goal is to mend and reinforce as well as help friends about to part company to stay glued. Are you one of those who love to be with friends but hardly stay with one for as long as you would  wish? Are you one of those who have been maltreated by friends until you are now considering going along life without one? No human being is an island. We are social beings always in the business of living together respecting each other’s opinion and personality in order to be connected and exploit all opportunities that come our way. 

    What I have written here and in many other write ups is to act as help to those who by ignorance , stubbornness, or neglect of other guides made the error of choosing the wrong ones as friends, and are now suffocating under the weight of strange thoughts, behaviors and actions. Most of you are now suffering from many health problems such as hypertension, diabetes, gastric ulcer, and mini madness. Others are permanently sad, moving and speaking alone, looking pale with dry lips and appearing old all the time. In this state of mind, you are not creative and highly unproductive especially when the friend is always around you. In order to avoid such friend who will devalue your life instead of improving it, do the following: > Make a character check by exchanging gifts and if possible, deliberately put the person in a difficult situation such as burrow money from him or her and watch his or her reaction after payment deadline. You know, people hate to be under difficult situations and if someone can persevere because of you, tick that one right as a friend in need. >Give him or her several attainable, and not for pay tasks or assignments, with a 50% margin in mind to evaluate to see if that person will reach your targeted rate. You can decide any assignment that suits your present state. You should space these tasks over a reasonable period, say six months or more without making him or her realized you are on a fact finding mission. Don’t be in haste as you may be discovered. Here you want to find out how truthful and reliable the friend to be is. > Do a background check of the friend? People come from different families with different characters. There are families where the great grand and grandparents were thieves, violent, liars, snobbish, proud,jealous, prostitutes ,lazy, selfish, cheats, kindhearted, lovely ,hardworking ,creative just to name a few. Most of these traits are inherited and manifested unconsciously. You need to verify to identify those who have inherited a large amount of such traits especially the negative ones and avoid them at all cost. Other smart fellows who discover they cannot manage such negative characters hide under the umbrella of men or women of God or call themselves Major Prophets. They use God’s name to mislead  the weak  into unholy unions and cults. You will easily identify them when you give the simple tasks stated above. The check mechanisms above are to help you seek solutions to common problems encountered by you, from friends. But what are some of these problems? Let’s examine some.

    It has been said that a friend in need is a friend indeed. In theory, this statement is very correct but we will hardly find this  in practice because human beings are unpredictable and complicated in nature. All these because you can hardly read people’s minds facially which at one point is highly influenced by the environment and backed by self-interest. Your eyes must be wide open and mind sensitive to some of the problems listed below that are found in friend: >always in need of assistance from you and not the other way round. >In a constant state of drunkenness and always smoking when you don’t. >Always telling lies; dishonesty, and unreliability. >having an affair with another one’s husband or wife. >laziness. >pride. >theft. >cheat >corrupt >jealousy. >Anger or hot tempered. >self-centered or greed. >unforgiving heart. >not creative These and others are some of the problems you will find in those you wish to have as friends. Knowing these, give a clear picture of those you will be dealing with as you move through this temporal journey on earth. 

     As every problem has a solution, below are some solutions you can consider. i) To have a friend, you must do some self-review to know whom you are else you may meet someone who has a different vision in life, and start struggling to cope with thus wasting precious time that would have been invested elsewhere. Your friends must not only be your age mates or younger ones. Having elderly people as friends will help you tap into some experiences in life as well as help equip you to face some of life’s challenges. ii) Find out why you need someone as friend or why someone wants you as a friend and try to weigh the pros and cons before involving yourself. iii) Avoid friends who are materialistic and money minded. Most of these are always out to exploit. They will do everything to achieve their aim even at your detriment. iv) Know the likes and dislikes of your friend and be ready to forgive or ask for forgiveness if you do something wrong. A mistake is nobody’s character reason why pencils have erasers. v) In as much as you will want to be happy, build trust in your friend by speaking the truth all the times even if it means ending the relation. It makes you reliable and trustworthy. vi) Focus on the positive aspects of your friend and minimize the negative ones since nobody is perfect. This will help you feel his or her value when there is a misunderstanding. vii) Prepare to be each other’s keeper not each other’s killer. Killing may not be physical but by what is said that is not favorable to a friend. Evidence The problems we experience in the world and our communities today are caused by most and if not all those encountered by friends listed here. Because of these problems people behave as follows: By-passing without greeting each other.  Divorced from marriages.  Planning to kill each other physically or spiritually.  Inviting barrister to recover money given out as interest free loans.  Not willing to look each other eyeball to eye ball. Continuous evil thoughts about each other especially in a case where one of the parties is succeeding.  Premature death.  Proliferation of cults and churches. All these happen because people get into friendship without knowing themselves, the other person, or come in with hidden motives. You could avoid all these if you apply what I have written here or make a special request with something pertinent in mind for an up-to-date solution. Because of the problems posed by friends, some people have decided to have their children as friends while others prefer their pets. 

  No human being is an island. There is no problem without a solution reason why pencils have erasers. If you chose to live without a friend, then life has in a way defeated you as you will bypass many opportunities. But if you must live without because of several sad experiences, I will suggest you go by a business partner. You need someone to share experiences as well as sad and good moments. You need comfort when life exposes the other side of its ugly face. A trusted one is needed during such turbulent moments .I am one of those trusted ones who will write an informative copy to help you seek immediate solutions to your marital, sexual, social, business, family, professional and many other relationships. You need these to improve your life and that of others. Take advantage of this to get instant self-improvement.

How to identify the attitude of someone you are discussing with.

1. Many people have a physically safe distance of 1 meter from others. But if the distance between you and him is reduced to 0.5 meters when you make contact with him, it means that he is inwardly attracted to you and wants to be close to you or even in an intimate relationship. If the distance between you guys is growing, it means he is repulsed and annoyed with you inside.
2. When you look at a girl, if her eyes are dodgy, and she doesn't dare to look directly at you, but her mouth is still full of joy, then you can be sure that you will be able to persuade her, and her heart will have a good feeling for you.
3. When you have a conversation with a girl, and she suddenly covers her mouth with her hands, then she intends to attract you; If someone starts touching their chin with their finger in a conversation, it's a sign that they have internal doubts about what you're saying.
4. If a person blinks continuously, it means that he is nervous and unconfident inside right now.
5. People who like gray tend to be smart, competent, and compassionate. They are often caring, lining others up, and have a good handle on the balance of relationships. These types of people want to live a quiet life at heart.
6. If one is touching cheeks, ears, and especially the corners of mouth incessantly during a conversation, it indicates that the words coming out from her/him often lie. Inside, she/he was extremely embarrassed, so she/he wants to touch her/his mouth to keep the lie from coming out.
7. When you're talking to someone, and they keep looking out the window or door, it means they're anxious inside and have something urgent to deal with them. If he taps his fingers on the table or clasps his hands on his chest, he's not interested in the topic and is resisting it.
8. The constant pulling of ears and touching of earlobes during a conversation is a sign that the person is losing patience with your words and wants to interrupt you.
9. The "suspension bridge mentality" is the easiest way to develop a relationship. When you go on a suspension bridge together, or high enough to ride a roller coaster, which things that get his/her heart racing, she/he tends to mistake this excitement for causing by being with you, ignoring the fact that the activity itself is stimulating. So she/he will quickly have feelings for you.
10. The ultimate in fear is anger, and if a person yells, "Come on, I'm not afraid of you," he or she must be as afraid as a rabbit inside.
11. Most boys love to brag. If he becomes particularly braggadocious in front of a girl, it means that he likes her inside and wants to gain her attention and approval quickly.
12. If a person is persuading you and treats you like a goddess, indomitable and stubborn, this kind of person often doesn't like you at all. He just has a conquest for you, and to prove himself, he sees you as a competing object.
13. People who like to talk in their hearts when they're drunk are actually lonely in their normal lives, with few close friends. Those who weep after drinking have untold secrets and pains in their hearts.
14. People who are extraordinarily welcoming to you from the first time they meet you either have designs on you or don't usually have any real friends, who have a strong desire to confide and do not really like you.
15. When confronted with a boy, his eyes are smug, arrogant, and even a little defiant, and such a person is often conceited, with little backbone or real talent.
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REASONS WHY YOU MUST ALWAYS BE YOURSELF

 It is a mistake to think time is going. Time is not going. Time is here until the world ends. It is you that is going. You don’t waste time. Time is infinite. You waste yourself. You are finite. It is you that grows old and dies. Time doesn’t. So make better use of yourself before you expire. And one of the worst things to do with time is comparing yourself to others. A cow eats grass and gets fat but if a dog eats grass, it will die. Never compare yourself with others. Run your race. What works for one person may be that which will kill you. Focus on the gifts and talents God gave you and don’t be envious of the blessings He gave others.

 Both Lion and Shark are professional hunters, BUT:
 A Lion cannot hunt in the Ocean and a Shark cannot hunt in the jungle
That a Lion cannot hunt in the ocean doesn't make him useless and that a Shark cannot hunt in the jungle doesn't also make him useless both have their territory where they can do well

 If a rose smells better than tomatoes, It doesn't mean the rose can make a better stew. Don't try to compare yourself to others. You also have your strength, look for it and build on it. All animals that exist, were in Noah's ark. A snail is one of those animals. If God could wait long enough for snails to enter Noah's ark; His door of grace won't close till you reach your expected position in life. Never look down on yourself, keep looking up. Remember that Broken crayons still color.
Keep on pushing, you never can tell how close you are to your goal.

TEN SOCIAL OR BEHAVIORAL REASONS WHY MARRIED MEN OR WOMEN STILL PRACTICE INFIDELITY

           Ten Social or behavioral reasons why married men or women still practice infidelity 

   Many couples hope to live happily from the onset of their relationship but time often proves the contrary. Age and certain barriers complicate and as result you find one or both behaving in strange ways to the disadvantage of kids if any. This article reveals the reasons and explain them a bit. It is for you to read and review your behavior in order to bring back the almost lost glory in your marriage. Below are some of the reasons:

1 1)   LACK OF COMMUNICATION OR DIALOGUE. Communication here refers to the ability of the couples to talk over their issues in cordial manner, so that they both understand each other, accept faults, apologize where necessary, plan their future, etc. A couple that discusses their issues amicably , at the appropriate time, with respect of each other’s view, understands each other best, increase their confidence level for each other , greatly reduce suspicion. Love and harmony are bound to reign in such a home. Anyone will find it difficult to cheat on the other since the ill feelings will be felt deep in his or her heart. Some couples talk, but without communication ;that is  the information is passed not perceived in the sense the intended, or the talking is done in a manner of satisfying self, rather than striking a consensus. In such a situation, the level of trust reduces among them and the chances of leaning outside increase. Communication should be harmonious.

2 2)   ANGER. A quick-tempered partner will easily make rash or hash decisions without thinking twice, after a trivial house matter. Most of such decisions are usually to the detriment of the family since one of you want to prove tough. Such a person may decide to sleep outside just because of a minor misunderstanding. Also, a partner who is not used to this quick-tempered and emotional way of life may seek peace elsewhere. Should you discovered that you have quick temperament, you need to be always conscious of it and try to always count from 100  to 1 before taking a decision. Your spouse should also learn to master your countenance, when and how to communicate. Read Ephesians 4: 26-32.   

3 3)  BOREDOM. This is the case with young couples or newly married, when the man is working and the wife is not. As such, she stays all day long at home, may be alone and may entertain herself by watching television or other movies. In not so long a time, she becomes fade up with everything in the house, and will surely need company. Smart ill-mannered guys around may use her situation and exploit her sexually. At first, such guys pose to be very caring good friends to the husband, or even his relatives. Bearing in mind that newly wedded women need a lot of sex, watch out how your friends relate with her, and make sure she has something doing outdoors during the day. Remember, an idle mind is the devil’s workshop.

4 4)   RUNNING WHEN THERE IS A PROBLEM. We have seen and heard in many instances where a wife escapes to her parents because the husband has done this or that, and a few cases, a husband abandoned his home for a hotel or rented apartment claiming his wife is a hell to him. These are actions of cowards, and such decision does not solve a problem, but increases the chances that the abandoned spouse can seek solace outside. Many women are known to have escaped to their parent with the hopes of teaching their husband a lesson, but realize that they had just given a chance for another woman to step in without delay. Many men are also known to have escaped home to rest, but to realize they have just given to wives to welcome home as many men as are available demanding sex from her.  A couple whose age difference is fifteen, should never try any of the above, for, reconciliation will be more difficult. Please, always stay at home and do everything at your at your disposal to solve your problems. Consult a counselor or any of your parents and increase your degree of prayers. Try as much as possible to use dialogue with your spouse as a means of conflict resolution. 

5 5)   LACK OF FORGIVENESS BETWEEN THE COUPLES. Misunderstandings are bound to prevail where two or more persons are living together. The bible asks us to forgive so as to be forgiven, and to judge not, so as not to be judged. A wife or husband who keeps the other one deep at heart starts developing less interest in the other , as such, expresses less and less love for him or her. Love in marriage is not just to be expressed by mouth, but by action, and once it is not coming from the heart; love making will be selfish and one-sided. As a husband or a wife, you should keep pride away before your spouse, and admit your faults, for pride comes before a fall. Such discussions can take place privately, in bed, before, during or after love-making.

6 6)   FALSE ACCUSATIONS. This very much ties with lack of forgiveness, jealousy, and lack of confidence. It is when a spouse is jealous of the other that he/she accusing the other falsely. Such never want even to dream that the spouse waved at another person of the opposite sex. For such people, the spouse will always find it difficult to convince him/her that nothing fishy is transpiring between them. This is how lies-telling comes in between a couple and the devil starts working. Please have confidence in your spouse, forgive him/her even if you saw the evil act, and many more times you do so, the guiltier he/she will feel, and will eventually leave behind such nasty living and remain with you.

7 7)  WOMAN OR MAN IS FADE UP WITH SPOUSE. When the love between a couple is less innovative, then one or both parties may become fade up with each other. Innovations here mean ways of renewing love. These include cost-free statements like  “ I love you, you were just wonderful last night, why have you been hiding this style until today, I have just realized I had not known you, let no man or woman seize you from me, you are more beautiful than ever” etc. Body signs like eye looks, playing games, surprising him/her in a shower etc are equally very important innovative tools. If these are lacking, and intercourse is very often, then fading syndrome will start to come in.

8  8)   HUSBAND SMOKES, LEADING TO VERY BAD MOUTH SMELL. For those who smoke, the odor or bad smell that comes out of their mouth long after they had smoked is more disgusting than the smoke that comes out during smoking. It is actually an uneasy task to kiss such a person, especially deep kissing. Even talking with such a person at close range can only be supported by those who are use to, or do smoke themselves. Such unpleasant environment within a couple greatly reduces the duration of their fore play, and the woman is less like to ever attain orgasm. If she is not very supportive and conscious of her marital faithfulness, she may seek satisfaction outside. If any of the parties should smoke, then he/she should take into consideration the health and interest of the other, and thoroughly brush the mouth with tooth paste, chew some gums etc. This conscious adjustment will eventually lead him or her even quit smoking.

9 9)   IGNORANCE OF SOME WOMEN TO ACKNOWLEDGE THE HUMAN NATURE OF THEIR HUSBANDS.  This is the case of wives of men-of-God, such as pastors. Instead of them doing all they can as housewives to entice and keep their husbands only to themselves, they pretend and think their husbands are angels. These women are suppose to look neatest, most caring, welcoming, hygienic modest, etc. They should know that their husbands are the main objects of attack by the devil, and these men-of-God are exposed to, and being highly envied by many nicer women in the congregations. Instead of these women praying seriously and doing what they ought to be doing for their husbands, to keep them happy and comfortable, they claim they already own them, and that they hold exclusive rights to order them anyhow. Some of them are even wicked to other women in the congregation, are dictatorial during church group meetings, and even claim more rights than the pastor himself. These are attributes that make their husbands to want to think that they made a wrong choice. This is an opening the devil will never let go, and will use and will use his agents in the church to lure the pastor to realize the ‘truth’. These women should accept that pastors are humans, with all human feelings and weaknesses, and their eyes do judge the difference in beauty between their wives and other women.

1 10)                       THE ENVIRONMENT WHERE EITHER OF THE GREW UP AND/OR LIVES IS MORALLY DECAYED. In certain morally decayed environments, having intercourse at any age, with whosoever, is not a sin. It is considered a normal relaxation process, and has no aftermath effects. Such an environment usually results in transit or junction town where many people come in and go out regularly. Prostitution thrives very much here, and more than three quarters of the children born here are bastards, and even married people mess around very carelessly. Anyone who tries to preach the gospel of STDs here is considered an enemy of progress. Churches here will most often be empty, and even the few who go there have very little faith. The wife may be faithful, but husband will not be, or vice-versa and this will eventually result in the faithful party seeing no use being faithful. Such an environment needs spiritual cleansing and very aggressive health education. Watch where and how your children grow up.

SIX SIMPLE THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER DO IN ORDER TO STAY HAPPY

Happy people do a lot of things. They spend time expressing
gratitude, cultivating optimism, practicing kindness, nurturing loving relationships, committing to meaningful goals, savoring life’s little pleasures, and so on and so forth.
But they NEVER…

1. Mind other people’s business.
Forget about what others are doing. Stop looking at where they are and what they have. Nobody is doing better than you because nobody can do better than you. YOU are walking your own path. Sometimes the reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes circumstances with everyone else public highlight reel. We listen to the noise of the world, instead of ourselves. So stop the comparisons! Ignore the distractions. Listen to your own inner voice. Mind your own business.
Keep your best wishes and your biggest goals close to your heart and dedicate time to them every day. Don’t be scared to walk alone, and don’t be scared to enjoy it. Don’t let anyone’s ignorance, drama, or negativity stop you from being the best you can be. Keep doing what you know in your heart is right, for YOU. Because when you are focused on meaningful work and at peace within yourself, almost nothing can shake you.
2. Seek validation of self-worth from others.
When you are content to simply be yourself, without comparing and competing to impress others, everyone worthwhile will respect you. And even more importantly, you will respect yourself.
How are you letting others define you? What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
Truth be told, no one has the right to judge you. People may have heard your stories, and they may think they know you, but they can’t feel what you are going through; they aren’t living YOUR life. So forget what they think and say about you. Focus on how you feel about yourself, and keep walking the path that feels best under your feet.
Those who accept you are your friends. Those who don’t are your teachers. If someone calls you something and it’s true, it’s not your problem because it’s true. If someone calls you something and it’s not true, it’s not your problem because it’s not true. Either way, whatever they call you is not your problem. What other people call you is their problem…
What you call yourself, and who you decide to become, is your problem.
3. Rely on other people and external events for happiness.
Unhappiness lies in that gap between what we have now and what we think we need. But the truth is, we don’t need to acquire anything more to be content with what we already have. We don’t need anyone else permission to be happy. Your life is magnificent not because someone says it is, or because you have acquired something new, but because you choose to see it as such. Don’t let your happiness be held hostage. It is always yours to choose, to live and experience.
As soon as you stop making everyone and everything else responsible for your happiness, the happier you’ll be. If you’re unhappy now, it’s not someone else fault. Take full responsibility for your own unhappiness, and you will instantly gain the ability to be happier. Stop seeking in vain to arrange conditions that will make you happy. Simply choose to appreciate the greatness that is yours in this moment, and the right conditions will start to line up around the contentment you seek.
The greater part of your happiness or unhappiness depends upon your outlook, and not upon our situation. Even if things aren’t perfect right now, think of all the beauty still left around you. A good reason to smile is always one thought away; choose to tap into it any time you like. (Read The Gifts of Imperfection .)
4. Hold on to resentment.
Let today be the day you stop being haunted by the ghosts from your past. What happened in the past is just one chapter in your story; don’t close the book, just turn the page.
We’ve all been hurt by our own decisions and by others, and while the pain of these experiences is normal, sometimes it lingers for too long. Feelings of resentment urge us to relive the same pain over and over, and we have a hard time letting go.
Forgiveness is the remedy. It allows you to focus on the future without combating the past. To understand the infinite potential of everything going forward is to forgive everything already behind you. Without forgiveness, wounds can never be healed and personal growth can never be achieved. It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life.
5. Spend prolonged periods of time in negative environments.
You can’t make positive choices for the rest of your life without an environment that makes those choices easy, natural, and enjoyable. So protect your spirit and potential from contamination by limiting your time with negative people and the environments they inhabit.
When other people invite you to act like victims, when they whine and moan about the unfairness of life, for example, and ask you to agree, to offer condolences, and to participate in their grievances, WALK AWAY. When you join in that game of negativity you always lose.
Even when you’re alone, create a positive mental space for yourself. Make it a point to give up all the thoughts that make you feel bad, or even just a few of them that have been troubling you, and see how doing that changes your life. You don’t need negative thoughts. They are all lies. They solve nothing. All they have ever given you is a false self that suffers for no reason. (Read Buddha’s Brain .)
6. Resist the truth.
It is a certain deathtrap when we spend our lives learning how to lie, because eventually these lies grow so strong in our minds that we become bad at seeing, telling and living our own truth. Lives come apart so easily when they have been held together with lies. If you resist the truth, you will live a lie every day as the truth haunts your thoughts every night. You simply can’t get away from your truth by moving dishonestly from one place to the next.
So don’t bend; don’t water it down; don’t try to hide the truth with deception; don’t edit your own soul according to the fashion of what’s popular. It is better to offer no explanation or excuse than a false one. It takes courage and strength to admit the truth, but it is the only way to truly live. Accept what is, embrace it fully, and live for the possibilities that lie ahead.