Ten Social or behavioral reasons why married men or women still practice
infidelity
Many couples hope to live happily from the
onset of their relationship but time often proves the contrary. Age and certain
barriers complicate and as result you find one or both behaving in strange ways
to the disadvantage of kids if any. This article reveals the reasons and
explain them a bit. It is for you to read and review your behavior in order to
bring back the almost lost glory in your marriage. Below are some of the
reasons:
1 1) LACK OF
COMMUNICATION OR DIALOGUE. Communication here refers to the ability of the
couples to talk over their issues in cordial manner, so that they both
understand each other, accept faults, apologize where necessary, plan their
future, etc. A couple that discusses their issues amicably , at the appropriate
time, with respect of each other’s view, understands each other best, increase
their confidence level for each other , greatly reduce suspicion. Love and
harmony are bound to reign in such a home. Anyone will find it difficult to
cheat on the other since the ill feelings will be felt deep in his or her
heart. Some couples talk, but without communication ;that is the information is passed not perceived in the
sense the intended, or the talking is done in a manner of satisfying self,
rather than striking a consensus. In such a situation, the level of trust
reduces among them and the chances of leaning outside increase. Communication
should be harmonious.
2 2) ANGER. A
quick-tempered partner will easily make rash or hash decisions without thinking
twice, after a trivial house matter. Most of such decisions are usually to the
detriment of the family since one of you want to prove tough. Such a person may
decide to sleep outside just because of a minor misunderstanding. Also, a
partner who is not used to this quick-tempered and emotional way of life may
seek peace elsewhere. Should you discovered that you have quick temperament,
you need to be always conscious of it and try to always count from 100 to 1 before taking a decision. Your spouse
should also learn to master your countenance, when and how to communicate. Read
Ephesians 4: 26-32.
3 3) BOREDOM. This
is the case with young couples or newly married, when the man is working and
the wife is not. As such, she stays all day long at home, may be alone and may
entertain herself by watching television or other movies. In not so long a
time, she becomes fade up with everything in the house, and will surely need
company. Smart ill-mannered guys around may use her situation and exploit her
sexually. At first, such guys pose to be very caring good friends to the
husband, or even his relatives. Bearing in mind that newly wedded women need a
lot of sex, watch out how your friends relate with her, and make sure she has
something doing outdoors during the day. Remember, an idle mind is the devil’s
workshop.
4 4) RUNNING
WHEN THERE IS A PROBLEM. We have seen and heard in many instances where a wife
escapes to her parents because the husband has done this or that, and a few
cases, a husband abandoned his home for a hotel or rented apartment claiming
his wife is a hell to him. These are actions of cowards, and such decision does
not solve a problem, but increases the chances that the abandoned spouse can
seek solace outside. Many women are known to have escaped to their parent with
the hopes of teaching their husband a lesson, but realize that they had just
given a chance for another woman to step in without delay. Many men are also
known to have escaped home to rest, but to realize they have just given to
wives to welcome home as many men as are available demanding sex from her. A couple whose age difference is fifteen,
should never try any of the above, for, reconciliation will be more difficult.
Please, always stay at home and do everything at your at your disposal to solve
your problems. Consult a counselor or any of your parents and increase your
degree of prayers. Try as much as possible to use dialogue with your spouse as
a means of conflict resolution.
5 5) LACK OF
FORGIVENESS BETWEEN THE COUPLES. Misunderstandings are bound to prevail where
two or more persons are living together. The bible asks us to forgive so as to
be forgiven, and to judge not, so as not to be judged. A wife or husband who
keeps the other one deep at heart starts developing less interest in the other
, as such, expresses less and less love for him or her. Love in marriage is not
just to be expressed by mouth, but by action, and once it is not coming from
the heart; love making will be selfish and one-sided. As a husband or a wife,
you should keep pride away before your spouse, and admit your faults, for pride
comes before a fall. Such discussions can take place privately, in bed, before,
during or after love-making.
6 6) FALSE
ACCUSATIONS. This very much ties with lack of forgiveness, jealousy, and lack
of confidence. It is when a spouse is jealous of the other that he/she accusing
the other falsely. Such never want even to dream that the spouse waved at
another person of the opposite sex. For such people, the spouse will always
find it difficult to convince him/her that nothing fishy is transpiring between
them. This is how lies-telling comes in between a couple and the devil starts
working. Please have confidence in your spouse, forgive him/her even if you saw
the evil act, and many more times you do so, the guiltier he/she will feel, and
will eventually leave behind such nasty living and remain with you.
7 7) WOMAN OR MAN
IS FADE UP WITH SPOUSE. When the love between a couple is less innovative, then
one or both parties may become fade up with each other. Innovations here mean
ways of renewing love. These include cost-free statements like “ I love you, you were just wonderful last
night, why have you been hiding this style until today, I have just realized I
had not known you, let no man or woman seize you from me, you are more
beautiful than ever” etc. Body signs like eye looks, playing games, surprising
him/her in a shower etc are equally very important innovative tools. If these
are lacking, and intercourse is very often, then fading syndrome will start to
come in.
8 8) HUSBAND
SMOKES, LEADING TO VERY BAD MOUTH SMELL. For those who smoke, the odor or bad
smell that comes out of their mouth long after they had smoked is more
disgusting than the smoke that comes out during smoking. It is actually an
uneasy task to kiss such a person, especially deep kissing. Even talking with
such a person at close range can only be supported by those who are use to, or
do smoke themselves. Such unpleasant environment within a couple greatly
reduces the duration of their fore play, and the woman is less like to ever
attain orgasm. If she is not very supportive and conscious of her marital
faithfulness, she may seek satisfaction outside. If any of the parties should
smoke, then he/she should take into consideration the health and interest of
the other, and thoroughly brush the mouth with tooth paste, chew some gums etc.
This conscious adjustment will eventually lead him or her even quit smoking.
9 9) IGNORANCE OF SOME WOMEN TO
ACKNOWLEDGE THE HUMAN NATURE OF THEIR HUSBANDS. This is the case of wives of men-of-God, such
as pastors. Instead of them doing all they can as housewives to entice and keep
their husbands only to themselves, they pretend and think their husbands are
angels. These women are suppose to look neatest, most caring, welcoming,
hygienic modest, etc. They should know that their husbands are the main objects
of attack by the devil, and these men-of-God are exposed to, and being highly
envied by many nicer women in the congregations. Instead of these women praying
seriously and doing what they ought to be doing for their husbands, to keep
them happy and comfortable, they claim they already own them, and that they
hold exclusive rights to order them anyhow. Some of them are even wicked to
other women in the congregation, are dictatorial during church group meetings,
and even claim more rights than the pastor himself. These are attributes that
make their husbands to want to think that they made a wrong choice. This is an
opening the devil will never let go, and will use and will use his agents in
the church to lure the pastor to realize the ‘truth’. These women should accept
that pastors are humans, with all human feelings and weaknesses, and their eyes
do judge the difference in beauty between their wives and other women.
1 10)
THE
ENVIRONMENT WHERE EITHER OF THE GREW UP AND/OR LIVES IS MORALLY DECAYED. In
certain morally decayed environments, having intercourse at any age, with
whosoever, is not a sin. It is considered a normal relaxation process, and has
no aftermath effects. Such an environment usually results in transit or
junction town where many people come in and go out regularly. Prostitution
thrives very much here, and more than three quarters of the children born here
are bastards, and even married people mess around very carelessly. Anyone who
tries to preach the gospel of STDs here is considered an enemy of progress.
Churches here will most often be empty, and even the few who go there have very
little faith. The wife may be faithful, but husband will not be, or vice-versa
and this will eventually result in the faithful party seeing no use being
faithful. Such an environment needs spiritual cleansing and very aggressive
health education. Watch where and how your children grow up.
