IS CONFLECT RESOLUTION PROCESS DIFFICULT TO IMPLEMENT? THESE 6 STRATEGIES WILL HELP YOU.

           IS CONFLICT RESOLUTION PROCESS DIFFICULT TO IMPLEMENT? THESE 6 STRATEGIES WILL HELP YOU.
 some attempts to settle conflicts are not successful.That is when mediation helps.Through mediation, an unbiased third party helps settle the difference.You may be able to find a mediator on your own.Friends and family members are often willing to help you think of satisfying solutions to any disagreement.

         Conflict resolution is a process and requires strategies that need to be carefully followed in order to help the mediator resolve the conflict under consideration. Below are six strategies that can help you resolve a conflict with ease. As you get them lean more on implementation. The things you need to do in resolving a conflict are as follows:

1)      IDENTIFY THE PROBLEM: Make sure that everyone agrees on what exactly the problem is. At times this step can lead quickly to a resolution of the problem without further action.

2)      IDENTIFY POSSIBLE SOLUTIONS: Come up with as many possible solutions as you can think of. Accept suggestions –even those that sound unrealistic. People should feel free to speak without being criticized, judged , or censored

3)      EVALUATE EACH SUGGESTED SOLUTION: For each proposed solution, ask: Does it solve the problem? Is it practical? If the answer to any question is no, that solution must be modified or discarded.

4)      PICK THE BEST SOLUTION: Make sure that every body  or at 95% of those present agree to the solution chosen; otherwise the conflict has not been resolved

5)      SEE IF THE SOLUTION IS WORKING: If any party is not satisfied with the arrangement, you need to renegotiate. Go through the steps again.

6)      IF NECESSARY, AGREE TO DISAGREE. Some conflicts cannot be resolved, but all parties should work to prevent unresolved issues from escalating the conflict. The best solution here may simply be acceptance.

 The above 6 steps, if well mastered and applied, most conflicts will be resolved within the shortest possible time. You can add other strategies that will ease your work.

NEW AND SMART THOUGHTS TO HAVE BEFORE MEDIATING IN A CONFLICT

          NEW AND SMART THOUGHTS TO HAVE BEFORE MEDIATING IN A CONFLICT.

                
                           

      Life is a battle which no one has ever won but those who fight it with wisdom live a bit longer on the battle field than those who use other means. Remember, wisdom comes from God and nowhere else. Seek God’s help if you really want to be a successful mediator. Mediation is needed always because nobody is perfect. From the bible in Psalm 33:16-18 it is said “A king does not because of his powerful army; a soldier does not triumph because of his strength. War horses are useless for victory; their great strength cannot save. The Lord watches over those who obey him and those who trust in his constant love.” This means the presence of a powerful army will never resolve a conflict unless God comes in. His presence will need people of integrity to mediate. Are you good mediator?
   

   

     As a mediator, your aim is to resolve conflicts and this requires some basic skills which you should have in mind. Below are thoughts you must keep in mind as you practice resolving conflicts:

Ø  Use words, not fist. Take pride in your ability to use your mind instead of physical force to settle a disagreement

Ø  Take charge of the situation. Make the decision to resolve the conflict peacefully .Do not satisfy the other person’s wish to fight if that is what he or she seems to want. Do what you want to do, not what others want you to want you to do.

Ø  Talk in a location where others will not distract you or interfere with your efforts.

Ø  When you talk, take turns. Give other persons a chance to speak, and then use active listening and keep an open mind.

Ø  Show respect in order to get respect back. If the other person does not show you respect, set an example anyway.

Ø  Control your voice. Yelling provokes the other person to yell. Staying calm shows strength and character.

Ø  Speak the truth .That is what you want hear, so that is what you need to deliver.

Ø  Control your tongue. Name-calling and cursing promote conflict rather than helping to settle it. Use “I” messages instead to express your point of view.

Ø  Use body language effectively. Stand firm, showing that you want to work peacefully and can handle the situation. Avoid standing too close, which can be threatening. Make firm but friendly eye contacts.

Ø  Value your own safety. Although conflict resolution strategies work in most situations, occasionally another person is uncooperative and out of control. He or she may not have the skills that you have or may not care. Some of these situations can be dangerous, especially when weapons are involved. That is when you have to say to yourself, “my life and well-being are worth more to me than winning this disagreement.” It takes a stronger person to walk away from situations like these, but doing so makes you the smarter one.

Applying the above thoughts in a peaceful and isolated venue will lead to a successful resolution of a conflict. Ensuring that justice is applied to the fullest leaves the mediation team fully satisfied as well as those in conflict.

                

WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT HOW CONFLICTS GENERATE

       CONFLICT  UPRISING

As I walked into the youth center, I noticed some of my friends dancing at one end of the room. What I saw made my heart skip a beat. My close friend James was dancing to a cool music with Marceline. I had gone out with Marceline for three week-ends in a row. I had high hopes that we would continue to see each other-and James knew that.

    I stood inside the doorway watching. I felt hurt and angry-with both of them. How could my friend do this to me? How could James? As the feelings grew in me, many thoughts went through my mind. Part of me wanted to confront both of them while the other part wanted to run back outside. Instead I waited until the music stopped. As soon as James was alone, I went closer and invited  him for a talk. My situation was an indication of how a conflict generates.

  WHAT IS A CONFLICT?

A conflict is a struggle between people who disagree. The struggle may be verbal, physical, or both. Conflicts range from little disagreements between friends to violent battles between gangs or armies. Conflicts are not unusual.  Everybody argues with someone from time to time. In principle, conflicts are not bad. Through them, people settle disagreements and move towards constructive action. In this way, there is positive force in people’s lives. When conflicts arise for the wrong reasons and when they are not well handled, they are an unwelcome part of life.

WHY CONFLICTS OCCUR.

  Some conflicts are so trivial that people do not even know how they began. Others have very apparent causes. What creates conflict for one person might not be the same for someone else. In general, conflicts arise from circumstances notably, situational factors, personal differences, and power struggles.

i)                    Situational factors: Any situation that dissatisfies people can stir conflict. Such situations occur commonly during daily life. I always ate launch with my wife at home. When she does not show up for the third time in a week, I am upset. When I saw her eating with her sister the next day, I became even more upset. This was a situation that was developing that could result in a conflict between us.

ii)                   Personal differences: Personality differences are often at the root of conflict. Values can clash when people express them. If tolerance for differences is low, conflict is even more likely. You need to be very sensitive to feelings of people around you in order to speak and act in ways that do not hurt them.

iii)                 Power Struggles: When people feel a need to be in control, a power struggle may result. This too can spur conflict. When a boss routinely assigns what he avoids to a subordinate, that subordinate may start wanting to do something about it especially if the boss's position of leadership is an elective one.

In each of the circumstances above and many others, preventing conflicts is not the issue. Such conflicts are part of life. The extend to which a conflict goes, depends on your response to it from the beginning. Conflicts have to be handled appropriately, because when they aren’t, individuals and society pay a heavy price.


        
            

NEW STROKE INDICATORS YOU NEED TO KNOW,

Stroke has a new indicator.
They say if you email this to ten people, you stand a chance of saving one life.
Will you send this along?

Blood Clots/Stroke - They Now Have a Fourth Indicator, the Tongue
I will continue to forward this every time it comes around!
STROKE: Remember the *1st Three Letters*....
* S. T. R. *

STROKE IDENTIFICATION:
  Scenario:- During a BBQ, a woman stumbled and took a little fall - she assured everyone that she was fine (they offered to call paramedics)...
she said she had just tripped over a brick because of her new shoes.
They got her cleaned up and got her a new plate of food. While she appeared a bit shaken up, Jane went about enjoying herself the rest of the evening.
Jane's husband called later telling everyone that his wife had been taken to the hospital - (at 6:00 PM Jane passed away)
She had suffered a stroke at the BBQ.
Had they known how to identify the signs of a stroke, perhaps Jane would be with us today.
Some don't die.
They end up in a helpless, hopeless condition instead.
It only takes a minute to read this.
A neurologist says that if he can get to a stroke victim within *3 hours he can totally reverse the effects of a stroke...totally*.
He said the trick was getting a stroke recognized, diagnosed, and then getting the patient medically cared for within *3 hours*, which is tough.
*RECOGNIZING A STROKE*
Thank God for the sense to remember the *'3' steps, STR.* Read and Learn!
Sometimes symptoms of a stroke are difficult to identify.
Unfortunately, the lack of awareness spells disaster.
The stroke victim may suffer severe brain damage when people nearby fail to recognize the symptoms of a
stroke.

Now doctors say a bystander can recognize a stroke by *asking three simple questions*:
✅ *S*Ask the individual to *SMILE*.
✅ *T* Ask the person to *TALK* and SPEAK A SIMPLE SENTENCE (Coherently)
(i.e. Chicken Soup)
✅ *R*Ask him or her to *RAISE BOTH ARMS.*
If he or she has trouble with ANY ONE of these.

FOODS YOU SHOULD AVOID EATING BEFORE GOING TO SLEEP .

As the obesity rate continues to rise, we start to hear more and more about the importance of avoiding eating late at night.
Many researches show that eating late has negative effects on your health. One of the most serious consequences is gaining weight. Another important reason why you may want to avoid this bad habit is due to its negative effects on your sleep. You need to get up to use the restroom during the night for many times.
If you have some private reasons making you have to snack on something in the evening, consider choosing fruits, vegetables or other products which are low in fat, calories and water content. Remember to keep away from the 7 following food categories.
1. Greasy or fat-filled foods
Several food types which are greasy, heavy and fatty should be eliminated from your dinner. The reason is that they not only make you feel tired and sluggish in the morning of the next day, but they also make your stomach get tired and overworked. In addition to gaining weight, eating high-fat foods before going to bed is the main cause of sleep disturbances because you will have nighttime trips to the bathroom.
A bowl of ice cream loaded with fat and sugar should not be taken at night in order to control your weight and sleep well.
Consuming too many fast food items can make your sleep interrupted. Moreover, fast foods are highest in Trans fat which causes stroke, diabetes and coronary heart disease.
2. High-carbohydrate or sugary foods
A small piece of sweet cake can help you slumber; nevertheless, if you eat a huge slice of chocolate cake, this will lead to an adverse effect. The reason is that the spike in your blood-sugar levels could cause your energy levels to spike and plummet, disrupting your sleep in the process. Cake, cookies, or other desserts as well as car by snacks like crackers or white bread are foods listed in this category.
Pastas are straight carbohydrates, and if you’re going to bed right after eating, that’s all going to turn into fat.Chocolate cake tastes good but ends up bad.
3. Red meat and other proteins
Eating red meats late at night makes it difficult for you to get deep into sleep since your stomach is digesting foods too hard. Dietitians show that red meat may actually affect you the worst, but eating a chicken or pork with large portions would have the same effect as well. In fact, you don't need totally avoid protein foods for your late meal, just remember to eat with a small quantity or opt for a glass of warm milk or some sleep-friendly cabs.Red meats should not be eaten too much at night.
4. Spicy foods
When you're craving something to eat late at night, stay away from the hot sauce. Spicy and peppery foods are not beneficial for your stomach. In addition, chemicals loaded in spicy foods can stimulate your senses, making it hard to fall asleep.
Many people feel heartburn after eating spicy food.
5. Hidden Caffeine foods
A cup of coffee contains caffeine which can lead to sleep disturbances. Even other less obvious caffeine sources such as cola, tea, chocolate and decaffeinated coffee should be avoided being taken at night. For a better sleep, cut all caffeine from your diet four to six hours before bedtime.
It is suggested to cut all caffeine from your diet four to six hours before bedtime.If you are sensitive with caffeine, you had better not drink green tea before going to bed.
6. Big portions
Lying down with a full belly can make you uncomfortable and find hard to start sleeping, since the digestive system slows down when you sleep. Keep the total calorie amount under 200 so you won't have any problem with going and staying asleep. Make sure to eat a reasonable amount of foods and finish a heavy meal at least four hours before bedtime.You will feel uncomfortable with a full stomach at night.
7. Diuretic foods
A diuretic is defined as either a food, herb, beverage or anything else that aides in the process of making your body release more urine. That is the reason why when you drink much water or eat celery at night, you should go to the bathroom more often. Thus, to have a restful night, nutritionists suggest you should limit the consumption of foods with a large amount of water. Keeping hydrated throughout the day is great for your body, but remember to cut down your fluid intake before bed.

THE BEST WAY TO FACE ANY CHALLENGE IN LIFE THAT NO ONE WILL EVER TELL YOU

    A daughter complained to her father about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose. Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen. He filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to a boil. In one he placed carrots, in the second he placed eggs, and in the last he placed ground coffee beans. He let them sit and boil, without saying a word. The daughter sucked her teeth and impatiently waited, wondering what he was doing. In about twenty minutes he turned off the burners. He fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. He pulled the eggs out and placed them a bowl. Then he ladled the coffee out and placed it in a mug. Turning to her he asked, 'Darling, what do you see?' 'Carrots, eggs, and coffee,' she replied. He brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. He then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee. She smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. She humbly asked. 'What does it mean, Father?' He explained that each of them had faced the same adversity, boiling water, but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. 
    But after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water. 'Which are you?' he asked his daughter. 'When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?'
      How about you, my friend? Are you the carrot that seems hard, but with pain and adversity you wilt and become soft and lose your strength? This article is sponsored by Hongxing Machinery specializing in mining equipment manufacturing such as vibrating screen and cone crusher. Are you the egg, which starts off with a malleable heart? Were you a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a divorce, or a layoff have you become hardened and stiff? Your shell looks the same, but are you bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and heart? Or are you like the coffee bean? The bean changes the hot water, the thing that is bringing the pain, to its peak flavor when it reaches 212 degrees Fahrenheit. When the water gets the hottest, it just tastes better. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and make things better around you. Ask yourself how you handle adversity. Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean? 
  The environments shown in the pictures below depict loneliness.How will you feel if you find yourself in such places?Know that you are stronger than any issue you come across in life.You are only limited by your thoughts.

EVERYHTING YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT PROSTATE GLAND AND PROSTATE CANCER.

After age 40, for reasons that may be hormonal, the prostate gland begins to enlarge. From 20 grams it may grow to almost 100 grams. As it enlarges, it squeezes the urethra and the man begins to notice changes in the way he urinates.
His urine stream is weak, cannot travel a long distance and sometimes may come straight down on his legs.
TERMINAL DRIPPING:
The man begins to notice that after urinating urine still drops on his pants.
HESITANCY
At this point you wait longer for the urine flow to start. There are 2 valves that must open for you to urinate – the internal and external sphincters. Both open but because of obstructions in the urethra, you wait longer for the flow to start.
INCOMPLETE EMPTYING
You have this feeling immediately after urinating that there is still something left.
As all these things happen, the bladder begins to work harder to compensate for the obstruction in the urethra. The frequency of urination goes up. Urgency sets in. Sometimes you have to practically run into the toilet. Nocturnal also becomes common. You wake up more than 2 times at night to urinate.
Stored urine gets infected and there may be burning sensation when urinating.
Stored urine forms crystals. Crystals come together to form stone either in the bladder or in the kidney. Stones may block the urethra.
Chronic urinary retention sets in. The bladder stores more and more urine. The size of the bladder is 40 - 60cl. A bottle of coke is 50cl. As the bladder stores more urine it can enlarge up to 300cl. An overfilled bladder may leak and this leads to wetting / urinary incontinence. Also the volume may put pressure on the kidney and may lead to kidney damage.
What may likely bring the man to hospital is acute urinary retention. He wakes up one day and he is not able to pass urine.
Everything I have described above is associated with prostate enlargement, technically called benign prostate hyperplasia.
There are other diseases of the prostate like:
1. Prostatitis – inflammation of the prostate
2. Prostate cancer – cancer of the prostate.
This discussion is on prostate enlargement.
I have bad news and good news.
The good news is that there are life style changes that can help the man after 40 to maintain optimum prostate health.
NUTRITION
Look at what you eat. 33% of all cancers, according to the US National Cancer Institute is related to what we eat.
Red meat everyday triples your chances of prostate disease. Milk everyday doubles your risk. Not taking fruits / vegetables daily quadruples your risk.
Tomatoes are very good for men. If that is the only thing your wife can present in the evening, eat it with joy. It has loads of lycopene. Lycopene is the most potent natural antioxidant.
Foods that are rich in zinc are also good for men. We recommend pumpkin seeds.
Zinc is about the most essential element for male sexuality and fertility.
Men need more zinc than women. Every time a man ejaculates he loses 15mg of zinc. Zinc is also important for alcohol metabolism. Your liver needs zinc to metabolize alcohol.
ALCOHOL CONSUMPTION
As men begin to have urinary symptoms associated with prostate enlargement, it is important they look at alcohol consumption. More fluid in means more fluid.
EXERCISE
Exercise helps build the muscle tone. Every man should exercise. Men over 40 should avoid high impact exercise like jogging. It puts pressure on the knees. Cycling is bad news for the prostate. We recommend brisk walking.
SITTING
When we sit, two-third of our weight rests on the pelvic bones. Men who sit longer are more prone to prostate symptoms. Do not sit for long hours. Walk around as often as you can. Sit on comfortable chairs. We recommend a divided saddle chair if you must sit long hours.
DRESSING
Men should avoid tight underwear. It impacts circulation around the groin and heats it up a bit. While the physiological temperature is 37 degrees, the groin has an optimal temperature of about 33 degrees. Pant is a no - no for men. Wear boxers. Wear breathable clothing.
SMOKING
Avoid smoking. It affects blood vessels and impacts circulation around the groin.
SEX
Regular sex is good for the prostate.
Celibates are more prone to illness. While celibacy is a moral decision, it is not a biological adaptation. Your prostate gland is designed to empty its contents regularly.
Thought: when someone shared something of value with you and benefit from it. You have a moral obligation to share it with others because someone in your friend's  sight be saved.
Share with others.
The subject is very important Please post the message on the largest number of your acquaintances:
"Pieces of lemon in a glass of hot water can save you for the rest of your life," says Professor Chen Horin, chief executive of the Beijing Military Hospital.
Even if you are busy, you should look at this message and pass it on to others!
Hot lemons can kill cancer cells!
Cut the lemon into three pieces and place it in a cup, then pour hot water, it will become (alkaline water), drinking it every day will certainly benefit everyone.
Hot lemons can once again release an anti-cancer drug.
Hot lemon juice affects cancerous tumors and
has shown treatment for all types of cancer.
Treatment with this extract will only destroy the malignant cells and will not affect healthy cells.
Second: The acids and monocarboxylic acid in lemon juice can regulate hypertension and protect narrow arteries, adjust blood circulation and reduce blood clotting.
After reading, tell someone else and pass it on to someone you love and take care of your health